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I just finished reading the latest chapters of NRP (which is lovely, thanks for writing it!). I read your end notes about how abo works in this universe, but I’m still not clear on the actual blood-bonding process. Is it “supposed” to be just the alpha biting the omega? Not both biting each other? (Sorry if this is something everyone just knows. I’ve only read a handful of abo fics, and they’re all different, it seems.)

I’ll add this to the supplemental materials in the fic, but don’t worry – this isn’t something everyone knows! I haven’t read a lot of A/B/O either, but you’re right about it being all different. 

In the NRP universe, I’ve made it so that omega biting alphas isn’t necessary to form a blood bond. Only the alpha’s bite is needed. Omega’s don’t usually feel the urge to bite. In the last chapter, it was strictly an act of desperation on Castiel’s part, and won’t really DO anything except mark Dean.

Honestly, I think that sort of thing would actually be considered a kink more than anything else. 😀

Does what Metokur said about you really not bother you? If not, can you teach me how to be zen?

What he said about me personally doesn’t bother me in the slightest. Literally, the guy came on to my blog, read the blurb, and someone drew the most wrong conclusions ever. And his commenters were even worse. That does not bother me. I don’t know that YouTuber from Adam, so who cares what he says? It doesn’t affect me in any way, so *shrug* I’ve simply learned how to be indifferent to people who don’t matter to me. I prefer to put my time, energy, and emotions into things that actually matter. A YouTuber isn’t one of those things.

The larger part is what bothers me. It’s a perpetuation of “men not wanting women to have their own space to enjoy things.” He obviously knows little to nothing about the SuperWhoLock fandom besides the other tired bullshit you see popping up everywhere when men want to trash women in fandom. That’s as old as the day is long. At best it makes me roll my eyes now. I’m too old and tired to engage in that pointless argument.

But he exploited autism, queerness, artists, and writers for laughs, and that’s a really horrible thing to do. That’s bothersome. And the vitriol that went on in the comments section only backs up the whiny baby mentality. It was a lot of dudes using all the slurs they could think of for me and all women in fandom in general. 

I don’t like the fact that I was used for some chest thumping for guys trying to put fandom down; put women down. But in the end, the whole thing kind of bites itself in the ass because these guys aren’t better than anyone and certainly not better than fangirls. They’re calling people fags and making tasteless jokes about autism and acting like it makes them superior?

It, in fact, does not.

However, this is the internet. This is what happens. The dudebros decide they want to hate on women having fun and doing something they love without them being able to police it, and they try. Tale as old as time. Trolling the trolls isn’t going to solve anything.

And I also recognize that the only reason I got singled out was dumb luck. He found my newest chapter at the top of the search results because he probably found it minutes after I’d posted it. That’s it.

But none of it changes anything. I don’t write for him or the dudebros trying their very hardest to drag me right now. I’m writing the stories I write because I love them and so do the people who read them. That’s it. That’s all I’m going to keep doing because it makes me happy. My fandoms make me happy. I’m going to continue to get up every day, go to work, take care of my kid, pay my bills, and pursue my hobbies regardless of what anyone outside of the fandom says. They’re not a part of my circle of friends or on my caring radar, so they can continue to do what they do, and it won’t affect what I do at all. My hobbies are just for me. I invite people to share them, and hope they derive the same enjoyment that I do, but it’s fine if you don’t. My world will keep turning no matter what anyone’s unsolicited judgment has to say about it.

I’ve been reading all your fics after that hot Mr. Klean drabble! I just wanted to say they’re wonderful! Special thank you for writing religious characters in such a respectful way. Too many on this site feel the need to look down on relgious people. Especially your Castiel feels authentic. You treat them like those of us with faith should act more.

Golly, thank you! I mean, seriously, thank you! I realize that there are a lot of noisy religious people (I can only speak for Christians, since that’s what I am) who are super hateful. But I’ve noticed that they’re the same as any other groups. The most liberal, open-minded, and moderate of us are the most quiet. You see it in politics. The minority is hateful, and they’re the noisiest. Religion, same.

So, I like to speak more to the moderates. I hate that zealots take the teachings meant to make morally sound decisions, and live good lives.

That’s why I write characters like Castiel, and if you’ve read my Mass Effect stuff, Thane. It’s why I try to encourage the moderates to speak up about what’s right: that God isn’t the Church. That people who also live morally good, upstanding lives, has nothing to do with me, and therefore doesn’t matter what I think. My faith isn’t being tested. My religious freedom ends when it impedes another’s freedom. I’m free to believe what I want, but I’m not free to use it as a weapon.

Plus, I don’t have any of those weapons. I’m faithful, but I’m not really religious. My faith finds God outside the Church. Even in my case, I’m queer, divorced, single mom. There are lots of religious people who don’t like that. And because of that, I keep my conversations with God my own. I also live in the Deep South, so we have more of the vitriolic flavor of “worship” down here that I just don’t agree with. I’ve read the Bible, I’ve found my truth, and that’s all I need.

Most of the other religious and faithful people who I connect with are like me, so that’s why I write the characters that I do. There are lots of us. Maybe more of us than the awful ones. And I really am trying to, in my own way, to bring more acceptance and understanding to both sides. All of us are far too easy to jump without listening. Sometimes it’s easier to listen if you can read it in a story and stuff.

I’ve been following your blog for awhile, and I think you’re great all by yourself, so no offense, but why do you suck up to so many popular people? You don’t need to. I think you could be popular all on your own. But sucking up to ltleflrt, diminuel, trilliath, etc. won’t make you more fandom famous faster. It’s sad.

You win this round, anon. Most of the time I ignore hate like this, especially on anon because you guys are trolling assholes, but I have to respond to this one, so point for you because you’ve hit some hot spots here.

First of all, not being fandom famous doesn’t at all mean that you can’t interact with people who are. Sure, you may not become their friends, or even get responses from them since they get a lot, but come on. They’re fans, too. Being Tumblr famous doesn’t make you better than anyone else. You’re not an untouchable celebrity. If I like something someone has done, I’m going to tell them. I don’t care if a thousand other people do. It’s not to suck up. It’s to show appreciation.

Second, how fucking dare you claim to know what I’m about. Why would I suck up to fandom famous people? That is literally the last thing in the world I care about. I assume you’re talking about the Supernatural fandom, since the people you’ve mentioned are in that one for the most part. I know I’m not fandom famous. I know that compared to the people you mentioned, I got nothing to write home about. But who cares? I mean, besides you. I’ve got a life, hobbies, friends, family, tons of other stuff that’s more important than how many people read my fics! I’m so incredibly grateful for every reader, but 100 or 1,000 hits isn’t my benchmark for success. My being proud of my writing is.

And speaking of friends. @ltleflrt is my best friend in the entire world. In real life. For realsies. She can be as fandom famous as she wants, and guess what? I think she deserves it because she’s an awesome storyteller and a blessing as a bestie. So, seriously, fuck you. Popularity didn’t make us best friends. Screaming about shared fandoms without regard for either of our popularities did. Plus a lot of other things. I’m the Sam to her Dean, and I didn’t earn that sort of friendship by being a fucking suck up.

Bottom line. I fucking detest popularity contests. I don’t do “Follow Forevers” or whatever the popularity contest of the month on this site is because I. Don’t. Care. I like a lot of people who have thousands of followers, and a lot of people who have like, ten. 

I like making friends, so if you can’t understand something so simple, then you need to unfollow me and think about why you’re such an elitist asshole.

HOW DO YOU HAVE FICS WITH MORE COMMENTS THAN KUDOS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I FOREVER BEG FOR RESPONSE AND DON’T GET IT!!!!!!!!!

I DIDN’T REALIZE THIS UNTIL I GOT YOUR ALL CAPS ASK!

I hadn’t ever thought about it, but you’re right. As of now, I have 4 fics with more comments than kudos. 

I’ve been thinking about this, and I see a lot of posts that roll around Tumblr with the same struggle that you’re going through, which is reader feedback.

And I’m gonna be honest with you. Most of the time people complain it’s because they’re not giving back. Look, you as a writer don’t like shouting into the Void, but your readers don’t, either.

If you only reply to your friends, mutuals, regulars, or (even worse) don’t respond at all, then you’re setting yourself up for nothing in return. People will think, at best, that you don’t see it, and at worst, that you don’t care.

Most of the posts I see about leaving comments never addresses the other end of the stick. Yes, we writers spend a lot of time and effort putting our stories out there, but when someone pays you a compliment, you should acknowledge it. 

Personally, I’ve run the gamut of comments. I get short and sweet, one word comments, and long rambling keyboard smashing adoration. I’ve also got hate before. But I answer every last comment. It doesn’t take bravery or anything extra to just reply back, “thanks!” That’s literally all you need to do. And sometimes, if I’ve got the time and energy, I’ll address their questions and concerns. There’s really no excuse to thank someone for reading your fic and doing something rare like commenting. NO EXCUSE. You can say thank you. You can put a smiley. You can do literally ANYTHING to tell them you saw it and appreciate it. And if you do, you’ll get 4 fics with more comments than kudos, as well.

‘Cause I’ll tell you something. I commented on a fic once, and it was pretty detailed. Lots of stuff I loved. Then I never got a response. Then I noticed the author picking and choosing comments to respond to that were obviously from people they favored. The rest of us went ignored. Do you think I bothered to comment again? No. Why would I? It impressed to me that the person didn’t care.

Anyway. One word, one emoticon, no excuses, really, If you want people to interact with your stories, you have to let them know that you’ll see it and thank them for it. It’s common decency. Someone’s giving you a treat/gift (a comment), and it’s nice to tell them you got it and appreciate it with a single thank you, if you’re shy. After that, you’ll see more. I promise.

I loved loved loved the unexpected duet. And you included the S&M version of Enter Sandman!!!!!! I love the rock/symphony fusion (I don’t know if you’re a fan, but there’s also a sub-genre called symphonic metal that I got my partner hooked on; also Scott D. Davis released an album of piano Metallica covers). *squeezes you and fic into group hug*

Thank you so much! 😀

Yes, I’m familiar with symphonic metal, and like it quite a bit! 

That’s kind of why I was inspired to write this fic. My family has a few professional classical musicians (and I was an opera singer) so I’ve always been fascinated with the fusion of the different genres. The first time I heard something like Bela Fleck playing Mozart on the banjo just because he could, I fell in love with all kinds of mashups. 😀

First of all, thank you for taking part in Fandom Trumps Hate as a creator. It’s a great cause! Second of all, have you (will you) consider more fandom activism seeing as how popular you are? I see your posts on my dash all the time and wonder if you will do more like FTH? I think it could go a long way since you are having a lot of exposure and are American (this is correct?) Thank you!

Well, okay, this is a really slippery slope and all. I’d like to start by saying thank you to you! I am taking part in FTH, and once I get a confirmation about the winning bidder donating, I’ll be making a super awesome fic! Exciting! I’m so glad that so many of us took part and raised so much money for all the people and causes suffering all over the world because my country forced the American people to accept a Fascist into office who didn’t even win the popular vote, and is doing his damndest to ruin everything this country has ever even tried to stand for.

At any rate, I will definitely consider doing more fandom activities as they arise, but I feel the need to point out 2 reasons why I won’t do my own activism here. 1) I’m not popular at all compared to a lot of people in my primary fandoms, and even if I was, that’s not a responsibility of anyone to be an activist if they don’t want to be. 2) This is a fandom blog, not an activism blog.

I am an American citizen, and one of the severely at risk groups, and in real life, I’ve called my senators, written letters, protested, etc. But here on Tumblr, I’m here to enjoy my fandoms and participate in them. I’m glad that there are people on here who are spreading the word, and very occasionally, yes, I do reblog stuff that I feel very strongly about. But on the whole, this blog is not for that. It’s my escape. It’s my place to appreciate the media that I love, and interact with people in that respect. 

Tumblr isn’t the real world to me, and it doesn’t have to be. Regardless of a blog’s popularity, or anything else, no one; I repeat, NO ONE, is required to be an activist just because they’re on this site or any other social media site, for that matter. 

And, by the way, this isn’t a knock on you for asking. I know things are going to shit and it’s terrifying, to me as well. But that’s part of the reason why this blog is my happy place, because there is nothing wrong with needing to get away from the shit for a while and be happy.