Certainly challenging to be sure. Not impossible, of course. But here’s a thing. Throw out the video and stop thinking about WHAT that person is doing and focusing on WHY. And not the “I have daddy issues cliche,” but what your character is accomplishing standing on that stage at that second. Is he or she looking to anyone in particular? Why? Does he or she think the target is hot or has some extra cash to help Stripper make ends meet? Or is Stripper just in it for the attention?
Go with that. If you haven’t stripped, it’s really REALLY difficult to try and do it on the page because it’s not as easy as it looks. So, instead of focusing on the mechanics, focus on what’s in the head of your POV. It’s much more interesting, and likely more sensual, than the actual act. So roll with it. And every so often when you’re in the head, step outside and show the reader what’s going on in more brief glimpses. Drop the shirt while your POV is making a grocery list in her head. Ditch the pants while POV is thinking of how he’s going to have enough money to pay the cell phone bill.
Whatever works. If you’re not sure how EXACTLY something is done, but you NEED it to work, don’t handwave it away. Just approach it from a different angle when and shift the focus to stuff you DO know. Like what’s in the character’s head.
Hope this helps? I’ve often done scenes like this and they’ve been well-received. Of course, if you want to go the straight way, research videos, pull the acts and parts you find sexy and describe those. But it sounds like you’re already stuck after researching, so maybe a different angle is a good way to go. At least to try.